Sibling Rivalry


Sibling Rivalry When dealing with sibling rivalry it is
always important to be fair and not jump to conclusions. It
is also very important to remain neutral. One must also
deal with conflicts objectively, so as not to allow your
own problems get in the way and worsen the conflict. These
rules go for both parents and baby sitters and should
always be kept in mind when dealing with such situations.
One of the roots of sibling rivalry is jealousy. Another is
fear. When the rivalry is between a baby and a toddler it
may be because the toddler is jealous about the attention
his brother is receiving or out of fear that he will
receive less attention now that his mother is caring for
his brother.
In such a situation the older brother may act violently
toward his younger brother in the absence of an adult. In
such a situation there are different theories about what to
do. Some say that a parent should allow them to work it out
by themselves (unless the baby is too young). The
instinctive reaction is to scold the older brother and
"baby" the younger brother. This helps neither brother. The
younger brother feels more dependent, which damages his
self-image, while it makes the older brother resent the
attention his younger brother receives even more.
In this situation my personal belief is that a person
should calmly explain to the older brother that what he did
was wrong, but forgivable. You should also explain why it
was wrong in a way the child can understand. In my opinion
the worst thing a person could do in this situation is to
force the child to apologize. It will reestablish that what
he did was wrong, and, since his baby brother is not able
to respond, will make him feel even more guilty. The
apology will also be insincere unless it is explained to
the child why what he did was wrong. The guilt the child
feels will also be translated into a facade of other
feelings. I believe it is most likely that the dominant
feeling would be even more anger toward his younger
brother. In my opinion, older children would be able to
work out their arguments for themselves if they are
separated and forced to present their reasoning (with the
help of an adult to translate).
Punishment is also a hard topic to deal with. Not giving
punishment would tell a child it is okay to bully someone
weaker. A harsh punishment would only amplify the tension
between the siblings. I believe that punishments should be
fair, and, when assigning them, be sure that the child
being punished understands that he is not being punished
because of his brother, but because he knew his actions
were wrong and committed them anyway. If the child was
ignorant that his actions were wrong, I believe you should
explain to them why their action was wrong and suggest
another way of with dealing with his situation, oppose to
Sibling rivalry is unavoidable, but can probably be
lessened by treating children equally, not jumping to
conclusions, and helping children establish a firm morale
base which they adhere

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